Monday, September 30, 2019

Why I Write

I write to learn.

I write to gain insight and new perspectives.

I write for forgiveness and to let go.

I write to understand and not blame anyone from my past.

I write about growing up afraid and ashamed. 

I write about not knowing what many people took for granted.
I write to explain why I didn't know.
I write to find answers.

When I had children, I believed that as long as they didn’t know our family history, they wouldn’t repeat it. I would keep the family secrets and make sure my kids didn't wind up on drugs or in prison.

Over time I learned that we need to know our family history. It's part of our story. It's part of us.

I write to claim my story and share it with my children and grandchildren. I want them to have a record, something they might turn to when they face their darkest moments. They can draw courage and make better choices when they see how their ancestors lived, their successes and failures. 

I write for others who may be walking a similar path of not knowing what many people take for granted.

I write for parents who are overwhelmed and worried about their children's futures. I write for anyone who may not know they are the first and most important teacher in the lives of their children.

I write because I want my children to know that they made me strong. I found courage because of Mike, Misty, Megan, and Rocky (RL). They taught me to put one foot in front of the other and never, ever, give up.

I write to tell you that believing in yourself is half the battle.

I write to tell you that what might have felt cowardly and shameful, may turn out to be the very moment you faced your worst fears. One day you can drag it into the light of day, look at it from a distance, and see all the good that came from it. Maybe even generations down the road. 

If you ever wonder where you will find the courage to face the next day, or find the strength to take the next step, look back, it might just be behind you.

Story Matters  It's no secret. Take a look at these uplifting quotes on family stories. 

Do you have a family story that encourages you? have you shared it with your children? You can email me privately if you prefer here.


  1. Quite inspirational, and reeks of courage that might not have been recognized in the moment. <3

  2. I look forward to reading more of your writing, Regina. Keep going!


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